If you live in the south you’ll hear that phrase before you die or a variation of it. Perhaps it will come when you expect it, say when someone realizes your conclusions don’t include a belief system predicated on faith or it may come when someone, assuming you believe what they do, offers it as an act of kindness. This can be a difficult to hear in some situations because to an atheist, hearing someone say “I’ll pray for you” is tantamount to saying “I’ll consult my magic eight-ball for you” or “I’ll rub my lucky rabbits foot for you”. In other words, it can seem insulting when indeed the phrase is meant to be reassuring and there might be a very good chance that this person will devote some of their ceiling time to talking about your plight. However, there is something to be learned here. As human beings we should be concerned for our fellow man and offer to help them in times of need. You have to give credit to religion in that it is a kind gesture of respect and empathy to tell someone you’ll ask the highest power you can conceive of to be merciful to you during your time of need, never mind the fact that it’s likely that same deity that supposedly put you in the position to begin with. I think as reasonable people we should feel called to do more. Ultimately, talking to your ceiling doesn’t help anybody. Wish-thinking is unproductive and really does more to boost the ego of the person giving the prayer than the one who is receiving it. Indeed, it’s been shown in clinical studies that patients who are prayed for (and know they’re being prayed for) do worse because they get a sort of performance anxiety and when improvements don’t manifest they panic that perhaps they’re doomed by the lord himself.
But I digress… My point is that we should feel called do something. If someone of faith says they’ll pray for you we should respond that we’ll do more than that. We’ll give our actual personal time to helping that person. We’ll elect responsible government officials that will look out for that person’s well-being. We’ll contribute to society; we’ll not needlessly send soldiers to war, etc. As rational people we should know that these sort of actions are what really count. I can’t argue with religious people that give their time to helping the needy. It’s sad that there’s the potential they’ll use the opportunity to sell the person on their faith of choice while they’re in a vulnerable position but at least the person felt cared for and perhaps had their needs met. I think we need to be mindful that we’re all citizens on the same planet and should do more than just look out for ourselves.